Rapport with Self: Creating Secure Attachment

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Rapport with Self:
Creating Secure Attachment

“Our beginning bond with our primary caregiver(s) determines our attachment style. Our attachment style is the framework from which we experience all of our relationships. This is our NLP Marin version of attachment material, and how it can be used in service to our clients and ourselves.” –Carl Buchheit

Almost nobody has a positive desire to achieve misery. Nor do people actively aspire to have negative feelings about themselves, their relationships, and others in life. But how comes it that so many of us don’t have the experience we want of ourselves and others? Furthermore, how comes it that in so many matters of the heart, people find themselves at loss, isolation, bewilderment, and in pain?

In this 6-day (2 x 3-day weekends) course, you will learn how attachment patterns impact all our relationships. Not just our intimate, familial, and professional ones, but the eternal relationship we have with ourselves. You will learn precisely how you ‘attract, select, and attach’ in all contexts requiring human connection; friends, partners, family, and colleagues.

Furthermore, through custom-designed exercises, you will experience ‘secure attachment’ first-hand, strengthening your capacity to generate a sense of security and trust from within.

Note: No NLP training is necessary to undertake this class.

For over 25 years, we have been teaching, refining, and extending our transformational body of work. Using gorgeous technologies such as NLP and Constellations, we invite you to experience what’s possible when one combines 'Attachment Theory' with the depth, power, and choice-enabling maneuvers of the Transformational NLP toolkit.

Carl Buchheit and Carla Camou (Transformational NLP trainers) will take you on an illuminating journey of self-discovery, empowering you with the timeless foundations to transform all types of relationships: professional, personal, intimate, and with Life itself.

Whoever you are, however you are— we will work with your nature and ‘what is.’ Together, we will also embrace all the wonderful possibilities you would like to manifest as you continue to master the art form of ‘Being Human.


Do You Ever Wonder...

  • How you repeatedly find, attract, and date the ‘wrong’ partner— even though you consciously don’t want to?
  • How you consistently find challenging bosses to work for— those who are unavailable, dismissive, or emotionally hostile towards you?
  • How it is that love and relationships consistently end in pain and heartbreak, no matter how much personal development or coaching you do?
  • How it is that taking ‘new steps’ in any domain of your life, comes with experiences of anxiety, fear, and mistrust about the future?
  • Why it is a challenge to get inspired and excited about positive outcomes in your life?
  • Why it is so difficult to positively receive loving, positive gestures of ‘goodwill’ from those in your life?
  • How you manage to be too busy or exhausted to spend time with the people you love, even though their company is right there for your taking?
  • How it is so much easier for you to distract yourself with day-to-day activities than to sit in company of others, face-to-face, and simply enjoying ‘being together’?
  • How you manage to surround yourself with good people who just aren’t as available for you as you would like?
  • Why the thought of connection and intimacy feels like a threat to your independence in life?
  • Why you freak out or panic when important people in your life don’t respond to your communications quickly, almost immediately?
  • How you freak out or worry that someone is going to leave or betray you, even though rationally-speaking, the odds of them doing so are low?

What Our Students Have to Say


  •  Stewart Anderson
    The community that arises during (and after) the course (Core Comp) is uplifting, fulfilling, supporting and accepting. The sense of belonging runs deep. Carl and Michelle foster a beautiful, humorous space of trust in which to work with our "shortcomings".
    Stewart Anderson
    Account Executive
  • Leanne Pain
    The learning and awareness that I have gained from NLP Marin has had a deeply profound impact in my life. The training is invaluable and exceptional. I would love to attend everything offered. I will eventually. NLP Marin creates an environment which allowed me to feel safe and allowed my critter to calm down.
    Leanne Pain
    ABASW, Life Coach, NLP Practitioner
  • Gail Brown
    Again, words fail me, but my life is better at home; everything I continue to learn has more resonance, more connections, more ways to fit it all together.
    Gail Brown
    retired teacher
  • Kelly Notaras
    Carl is a genius, and hilarious to boot. His commitment that choice is possible everywhere and in all ways has fundamentally rewired my relationship to self, other selves and life itself. Doing so much practice in the weekends is also extremely helpful--not only to preparing students to do the work with others, but also in getting us more of what we ourselves want. And I love Michelle and Carla too!
    Kelly Notaras
    Book editor
  • Laura Schummers
    I came to NLP Marin for my own healing and to get a step closer to reinventing my career. The Teaching Assistants are incredibly supportive and welcoming, and the other students are the types of people I want to spend my time with. I feel incredibly lucky to have found this community.
    Laura Schummers
  • Regina Martinelli
    NLP Marin offers highly impactful and unique trainings to help you have the type of experience you desire in your life; without needing to remember to be any different. Its subtle, its powerful and its permanent.
    Regina Martinelli
    EVP of Sales & Marketing
  • Ryan Perry
    Words of praise could be a whole volume. I love the way the NLP culture allows you to feel ok about yourself and does a great job of boosting individuals confidence while allowing them to struggle to figure things out in their own unique way and time frame. The amount of wisdom and personal insight that all the trainers and TA's share is valuable and much appreciated.
    Ryan Perry
    Self Employed CEO

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